If Twitter ends up suspending any of my accounts I’m moving to aethy
I’ll still hop on here now and again but tbh Aethy has all I want in a socmed site and I’m tired of my posts on here ending up in circles full of ppl who would hate me if they bothered to check any of my other accounts 😭
Look, if Matthew Rosenberg is interested in digging into, say, someone’s only lasting relationships being created through destruction, or the fear that the monster bestowed upon you not only death but rebirth, I say let him do it.
Red means stop. No more negotiation, something has crossed a line (too painful, something bad that wasn’t negotiated, etc.)
Yellow means that you need a break or that something is too much, or that if the top continues then you’re going to “red” soon.
Green means that things are going well and you want to continue if not ramp it up a little.
While a bottom might blurt out red or yellow, I’ve never seen a bottom volunteer “green”. It’s usually said in answer to when a top is checking in to make sure everything is okay. Asking “How are you?” and getting an answer of “fine” or “okay” might mean the bottom is just on autopilot and reflexively answering. Asking “What’s your color?” and getting “green” or “I was very close to yellow when you stopped” is much better.
One of my favorite doms to watch at parties was doing a pre-scene negotiation with someone he hadn’t played with before and said something like “Now, just between you and me here ;-) , my favorite color is yellow. It’s not about taking anything I can dish out. I promise you, I can always go harder. I want to know how you’re doing. I’ll likely yellow you, on purpose, a few times, just to find out where your limits are and then aim for a little below that. I don’t want to hear ‘green green green, green green red’ because then the scene’s over. I want some indication of how you’re doing and when you’re getting close to what you can handle, okay?”
And then, whenever she yellowed, he praised her. And why wouldn’t he?? She gave him vital information that allowed the both of them to have more fun!
Recently I have heard some discussions on also adding BLUE to this system for medical issues. It would function like RED but also in one word alert your partner you are having a medical issue, e.g. asthma attack, body cramps, low blood sugar, dizziness or some other sysmtom that is a problem for you. If you have already discussed medical issue with you partner, which you should do, blue might key them into something they can respond to with that knowledge to help rather than red and having to explain further.
Example: if I have asthma and communicate with my partner that it’s been bothing me recently and here is where my inhaler will be during a scene and I start having breathing issues and can’t stop coughing or catch my breathe to make out long or multiple words, I can say blue and they would know to get my inhaler. Or they would know to ask medical related questions in relation to stopping rather than thinking they pushed too hard.
I hadnt heard of the BLUE addition, but that’s great. Thanks for spreading the word about it.
I think this person on reddit summed up the youtube adblocker situation perfectly. my reaction to this is not “oh man guess I’ll watch ads.” its, “well, I guess I’ll just do something more productive with my time.” I highly doubt any adblock user is going to willingly go back to watching ads. so what actually happens is youtube loses a functionally tiny amount of its userbase–because adblockers weren’t even losing them a significant amount of money in the first place(!)–and a bunch of adblock users move on to something else. what a fantastic waste of time and effort
Ads don’t work. The amount of money you have to spend to get one new customer is outrageous. It’s more than that customer will ever spend. There’s no revenue recovery from ads.
People make money FROM ads (IE: on YouTube) because ad companies pay them FIRST in order to run the ad. And the ad companies get paid by whatever product is paying them, which means it’s a lucrative business.
Most business is driven by referral.
Ads viewed on the internet only influence about 5% of people to purchase a product. And those are ads that are seen and not blocked.
So any ad campaign not only has to consider the cost of their product, they’re also going to have to consider a +/- of about 3% for either a stellar campaign or a shitty one. And since most ads are shit lately, most products advertised are only gonna come in at around 2% of people influenced.
Plus, the ads are too fucking long. The average attention span nowadays is about 8 seconds. When I play mobile games, I get ads for OTHER mobile games that are up to 65 seconds long! My reaction is to usually close the game and stop playing it entirely, because I have other things to do than watch cartoonishly inept people fail at easy games for over a minute.
Plus, because ads work so poorly, companies think the answer is to make MOAR and LONGER ads. And it is true that the more you put something in front of someone, the more likely they are to think of it and buy it. But you can’t annoy your customers into getting something. I’ve seen so many ads for Royal Match that I actively want to murder the game’s king. I would never fucking play it.
I’m also more likely to watch an ad I haven’t seen before and react favorably to it. But I’m so saturated by ads for the same games over and over because the companies that make those games think more is better.
It’s like they never left the 1960s when trying to advertise to people.
No one wants ads.
You want a real kick to the face? Billboards, which litter highways and destroy scenery, sell to about 0.2% of the people who view them. What a waste.
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